My grandfather always said that living is like licking honey off a thorn. —Louis Adamic (via
White feminism is a set of beliefs that allows for the exclusion of issues that specifically affect women of colour. It is “one size-fits all” feminism, where middle class white women are the mould that others must fit. It is a method of practicing feminism, not an indictment of every individual white feminist, everywhere, always. —This Is What I Mean When I Say “White Feminism”
"White feminism" does not mean every white woman, everywhere, who happens to identify as feminist. It also doesn’t mean that every "white feminist" identifies as white. I see "white feminism" as a specific set of single-issue, non-intersectional, superficial feminist practices. It is the feminism we understand as mainstream; the feminism obsessed with body hair, and high heels and makeup, and changing your married name. It is the feminism you probably first learned. "White feminism" is the feminism that doesn’t understand western privilege, or cultural context. It is the feminism that doesn’t consider race as a factor in the struggle for equality.
dear das, i don't know who i could talk to besides you. so one of my best friends is a lesbian and everytime i talk to her about boys she always tells me that they are 'ew' and what not. but at the same time she likes to flirt with boys (also the boys i like..) and give them massive hope that she is into them. i feel stupid because on the one hand she tells me that she does not want to stay in the closet with everyone but at the same time she flirts with boys and gives them hope?
Okay, so I think I know what’s going on with your friend and it’s basically that she’s in love with the power trip of having boys be into her, but her not being into them. Essentially the “they will want me and I will not want them back” dynamic.
Now what can you do about this? Try to talk to her about what’s going on. Maybe point out the damage she is causing by essentially purposely misleading these boys or the resentment that’s building up because she’s flirting with boys you like. This may be a trait that fades after you guys talk it out or it might just be part of her personality, at which point you need to consider if it’s worth breaking up the friendship over.
Talents: being a panicky little shit about everything.
are you ever just like so upset by one thing you end up shaky and nauseous and like ??? excuse me situation but you are upsetting my chill and uncaring aesthetic
Dear poet, 2 questions. One, do you have anything about dating musicians? Two, do yo have any plans of publishing your work and if yes, do you need any help? We are here for you just like your words have been here for all of us. Just ask, d.a.s. xx.
I can’t claim to have any long poems about musicians, but I do have some poetic sexts that are “musically inclined” (x) (x) (x)
Thank you so much, you’re incredibly sweet! I may look into publishing soon, but everything’s still in the works right now.
see how it is like a
scar between their bodies,
stronger, darker, and proud;
how the black cord makes of them a single fabric
that nothing can tear or mend. —Jane Hirshfield, “For What Binds Us” from Of Gravity & Angels.